Lies You May Tell Yourself in College

You’ll Break Those Bad Habits

You won’t. Or maybe you will. But it won’t be any easier at 25 than it will be right now. If you think you’re going to finally stop using fillers in your sentences, or break that awful habit of biting your nails...and that it’ll magically happen because you’re of age...you’re dreaming girlfriend. It takes the same willpower and focus to break those habits now as it will in 5 or 10 years. How do I know? Because I’m still twirling my hair.

Stick to Your Goals

I’m a huge believer in goal setting, but sticking to them can be a huge mistake. Sometimes, exciting things in life will show up for you that you never planned on, and that weren’t a part of your goals or your five year life plan. And it is totally okay to follow these exciting new adventures, even if you had never considered your life taking you to that city, dating that guy, doing that work, or going on that journey. 

Love Gets Easier

It doesn’t get easier like I thought it would. Heartbreak still hurts. Guys still let you down. You’ll still go on horrible dates. You’ll still be scared to tell him you want to be his girlfriend. But with every door closed and with every bad date, you’ll be getting closer and closer to learning exactly what you do want and who you prefer to be spending your precious time with. But love, even in its highest highs, still has its terrible lows. Arm yourself with plenty of wine, soul-tending spotify playlists, and even better girlfriends, and remember...it’s OK because this is all a part of your beautiful journey.

You’ll Finally Feel Like an Adult

Correction, you feel more confused than ever. You won’t be a teen, but yet you won’t be into fully settled adulthood. You’ll be mid way through your twenties and still wondering when you’ll feel like you’ve fully embraced being on your own and not having all the answers. But here’s a big secret: no one else will have it all figured out either. And the best thing you can do is find a community of people who support and love you. Find your tribe of galpals so that you can easily talk to about the crazy challenges and curveballs thrown to you post-college. And more than anything, know that it is OK to feel lost, confused, or behind. You’ll find your way. You’ll just take about 11 left-hand turns before you get there. Embrace them.

You Won’t Cry as Much

You might even cry more. I’m a crier so I might be a bit biased, but I cry more today than I did 8 years ago because I’m more in touch my vulnerability, and even more OK with that than ever. I know that crying means processing. It means I’m really feeling my circumstances and moving through it. I own my elephant tears, revel in them behind closed doors. I let everything from joy to sorrow to frustration to be fully felt, and then left behind, washed far away by tears. So if you think big girls don’t cry, think again and grab the kleenex.

I found these Lies you May be telling yourself, in an article last year and have kept them in a folder on my computer ever since. I look back at them from time to time to remind myself to not be so harsh on myself. Its hard to see unrealistic expectations on TV and in the media all the time. So its good to remind your self that no one is or will ever be perfect and all you can do is do the best for yourself.